When Covid-19 started to wave through the United States and I first learned of places shutting down the first thing that crossed my mind were those in recovery and fighting against addiction. Then my mind when to those in domestic violent situations, child abuse and then to those living with anxiety. My very thought was home is not always the safest place to be and this definitely sat in my heart and still does today. Grief felt quite heavy internally and I also noticed it externally as well.
To the synchronicity of the world it seemed too fitting that grief felt like my new home wherever I went as I was moving from Michigan to Texas. Wherever I went grief was there, hotels, gas stations, fast food, rest stops…etc. Grief became my home and like so many others I’m sure felt this way too. We were living in a place of grief. It seemed a comfort of a hug was no longer allowed, I noticed people no longer smiled at one another and God forbid I said “good morning” in a chipper voice the looks I received back made me question myself asking myself how dare I come across that way…and then the other thought crossed my mind…. we are all grieving and my goodness have we lost our joy during this state of global grief too?
Living in a constant state of grief doesn’t feel comfortable and doesn’t feel safe without joy and connection too.
What do I mean by that?
I don't want to assume we are all on the same page here especially because in the past I have had people share with me that they have never experienced grief before because they hadn't ever been to a funeral. SO to clear the air on what grief is identified here in this blog it’s anything that has brought deep sorrow into your life. I’m going to reference two people you may be familiar with Kubler-Ross and Tian Dayton as they are known for their work in grief. If you are not familiar with them here are their stages of grief